Being abandoned due to death(or someone is alive and well, but deliberately left you) feels lonely. You begin to wonder if you are inadequate, you are now lost, or perhaps feeling completely unloved. Your self-talk becomes harsh…Overthinking is inevitable.
\’I can\’t believe they\’re gone.\” \”I did something wrong to deserve this.\” \”I must be hard to love.\” \”Why did this happen to me?\”
The dust barely settles…you can\’t describe the pain of this loss. Curled in fetal position sobbing for the ache that doesn\’t seem to go away- no amount of tears will wash this from your body. From the tips of your toes to the top of your head- it hurts, especially in your chest cavity(your heart). You don\’t want to feel this way, you want to fall asleep and awake with a renewed sense of self- they\’re still here, nothing has changed. But instead, you keep crying, it is such a raw pain.
You will get up tomorrow, will you get out of bed? Maybe not. Drink your water, eat something, and rest. Grieve this loss. Their is nothing you can do to change the outcome, just hold yourself a little tighter. Self-love and strength is your super power moving forward. Set a marker on your calendar for when you will begin the NEXT STEP. Don\’t dwell on the past, but allow time to feel it. Good luck, and open up conversation with trusted friends and family. I\’m always here.