Do you every feel like your setting yourself up for a wild ride when you pack your bags to see your family? Not necessarily because you are going on a zip-line through a rain forest, but because you realize your emotions always play a large part of your dread or excitement when going home.
Take a deep breath. You might already know that nagging will be inevitable because \’you\’re still single\’. The nose ring is really going to get your aunt into a tizzy because \’what will people think…?\”. (Perfection and wealth always seem to be her preference at any social gathering. *eye roll* It\’s okay. Some people are like that…) She\’s who she is, she\’s here for a purpose; maybe it\’s to test your patience. Pass that exam, YOU are the bigger person when it comes to the shallow view of your nose ring vs her own imperfect \’perfect\’ vision on everything and everyone.
You can show boundaries with respect for someone who feels differently than you, politely. Maybe walk away if you need to cool off. Space can help sort out thoughts. You are your own individual, respect that they are, too! It\’s good to have a variety of perspectives and people within the family dynamic. And you know what\’s even better? Those get together\’s are rare and you can always use the time and difference of opinions to grow yourself! Keep packing those bags, this holiday will be wonderfully filled with that wild ride of laughter, judgmental comments, and love. You are ready!
How will you control your emotions when you get hurt or angry if words exchanged are unkind? Start to prepare your list of healing ways to cope!